So I haven't discussed as much as I have been meaning to my new foray into the BDSM scene here. It is to be clear a very small foray, but hey, I'm still branching out! lol. So one thing that I have always enjoyed but not gotten to do much of is light bondage. I am not a person who has any desire to be wrapped in saran wrap or tied up all in rope and suspended from the ceiling. (Saw both of those things actually at the dungeon. The former was just really really weird in my opinion. I had seen it in videos before (I love tickling and for some reason they have a big time overlap that I don't quite understand) but in person it just kinda reminded me of one of those gigantic spiders from Lord of the Rings or Harry Potter. And the latter was certainly more appealing looking, but I just thought it looked like kinda fun. Didn't really see the erotic component to it. Just looked like a really fancy swing as he pushed her around on it.)
Anyway, so intense bondage isn't my thing. But I have always been intrigued as most spanko types probably have, by light bondage. I had a small collection of handcuffs when I was younger (that and sex dice were my two adult collections) that I really loved: plastic, a few metal ones, fuzzy ones (gift from Michael, lol), and an amazing Japanese rope one that was a birthday gift from Francesca one year), but my metal allergy has really gotten in the way of doing much. I have done things with silk ties and a tiny bit with rope, but I wanted something that was less work honestly, but didn't have the metal. The leather cuffs are nice, but even the ones that don't have stupid metal studs all over them, still have metal hooks that touch through to the skin. I really really really want to get a spreader bar at some point... still have not found one of those without metal...
So I was with Paul at VerLes, which is the kink store that I might have mentioned (hopefully have mentioned) that I recently discovered in Dallas and where I met the sadist guy, Daddy_o.... who is kinda now my new lover?... anywho. So we were there talking with Daddy_O (I am going to have to get him to pick a new name for the blog... his scene name is way too confusing for me) and looking through the store, and he recommended bondage tape. Now I was super skeptical. I am not hardcore. I have NO desire to have actual tape used on me in any way. But it really isn't sticky. Its kinda like really thick saran wrap actually- sticks to itself but nothing else. So I bought a roll. In pink. :)
My verdict: I love that it's easy to use. I love that it is reusable (though my OCD hates unfolding it and making it perfect again which is totally unnecessary for use but necessary for my sanity). I like that it's pink. I love that it works for bondage and I am not allergic to it! :) And I love that its way easier and cheaper than rope.
I don't love the "intruder/rape" aspect to it though. Some people I know love that and are really into it, but I am not one of those people. I dislike that it reminds me of duct tape in that way. I love forced orgasms and I really like the animalistic 'must have you now' element of forced scenes, and I honestly like scenes that involve strangers. But those scenes always involve someone I know and love in charge and like giving me out to be used by others. I don't know if I think that doing "rape" scenes makes light of something that is a huge and real issue, or if I just don't like the word, or what. But I get frustrated when people say that they want to do play rape. There is no such thing. There is consensual non consent, and there are rough scenes, and there is role play, and there are those moments when someone wants you so much they take you right then. But it's not rape. And rape is not a joke.
Ok, got distracted there for a minute, sorry! Lol. Getting off my soap box, had no intention of being on it this time. So bondage tape. I am a fan for the functionality, not a fan of the "impression." But we aren't playing with it the same way many would be, and so for me, it is just like rope or handcuffs, and it's a really fun way to be bound, spread eagle on a bed, blindfolded, helpless to whatever he wants to do. :)
I got pictures by the way *wink*
xoxo
Princess Kelley
First of all, the pics are lovely and I see that you are getting bolder with what pics you post. Isn't that first pic the first time you've posted one quite like it?
ReplyDeleteSecond, as far as the metal inside of leather cuffs, go to a craft store or hobby shop and ask for 'peal and stick' felt or any piece of felt and some double sided tape and affix a patch to cover the part that is a problem. I guess it doesn't even need to be felt. Anything you think a will work. even just a piece of duct tape would do but I know you are not fond of it.
Thirdly, I think the last time I emailed you was just before Christmas when I asked for thoughts and prayers of support as I was headed to South Carolina to be in attendance as my brother passed, and I do thank you for your very kind reply.
Fourthly, You and your mother have been in my thoughts and prayers. How is she doing?
Glad to hear you are are doing so well,
Your Alaskan Prince, Chuck
Wow, you always look gorgeous as you are a beautiful woman, but those pics are really hot!
ReplyDeleteHi Kelley,
ReplyDeleteWe've never used that sort of tape, but it sure looks like fun. I don't mind being tied up, so long as there is a good spanking involved. :)
I remember my husband once used duct tape on my leather cuffs (to secure me to a stool I was bending over). The adhesive stuff didn't come off and basically ruined them. You've convinced me that it's time to give tape a second chance.
Your photos are beautiful. as always!
Hugs,
Bonnie
Oh, and I agree with your rape comment. There is zero overlap between rape and play. Sex in the absence of consent is always wrong period.
ReplyDeleteHello, Kelley:
ReplyDeleteTry Velcro style cuffs instead of leather cuffs.
I'm looking at a Sportsheets brand Velcro cuff right now. There is no metal on the inside. The only metal is a split ring (like a keyring) on the outside to allow the cuff to be attached to something. The split ring could be easily removed and replaced with a rope loop or something similar.
I believe this is the product: http://www.extremerestraints.com/bondage-gear_10/ultra-beginners-bondage-cuffs_2617.html
Happy kinks!
No Saran wrap for the Princess. Makes sense. I didn't think you would want to be treated like a piece of meat. On the other hand, you're a real fan of rump roast, aren't you?
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Jerry Bear
You should be safe using regular leather restraints, since the metal is on the outside of the cuff. But there are also fur-lined velcro ones that you can find.
ReplyDeleteIf it's something you are interested in exploring, then you might want to look up someone to custom-craft you wrist and ankle cuffs that have no metal in them and use just fabric (whether the cuffs be fabric or leather or a combo).
As far as a spreader bar goes, a simple dowel with the appropriate hardware drilled through works great too. Do you have a friend that has a drill? That and maybe some plastic bolts/fasteners might work well for you.
Just how sensitive to metal are you? That would really drive the whole question.