So this is a rather long (approx 40 minutes- sorry guys! lol) audio post about the idea of limits and my limits in particular.
I discuss (in summary) physical limits, sexual limits, emotional limits, and physical limitations, as well as the various levels of respect that can go along with said limits and limitations.
What I talk about (this is at this moment as close as I'm going to get to a transcript of sorts- I'll try to expand on it after I finish my paper).
How people in the scene (both tops and bottoms) respect other people's limits and the various types of respect
basic respect- ie you don't cross someone's limit
general respect- you don't cross and you understand why they would have that limit but you think that they are less strong than someone who could take more and/or you attempt to pressure the person into changing their mind
full respect- you don't cross, you understand why, and you don't think that person is any less than anyone else for their choices in limits and you do not attempt in any way to pressure them
My Physical Limits
-No blood
-No whips or anything of the sort (including things like rope or those loop things but not including gentle floggers (though I think it goes without saying that for me those floggers that have pieces of metal or hard objects in them are an absolute NO when it comes to me)
-No canes
-No thick wood (frat bats, ect)
-(oh, just thought of one I didn't put in the recording- I don't do the bent over grab your ankles position- its too dangerous as well as completely impersonal and cold feeling)
-No intentional bruising (the story behind this and my personal reasons are in the audio- it is long and I will type it (maybe) later)
My sexual limits (most of these of course change if you are in a committed, exclusive, and loving relationship- these apply more to hookups and play dates with "friends")
-No penis shall enter my body in any way. (if I choose when comfortable, to give head, that is my choice and will be initiated only by myself)
-No kissing men who are spoken for (even if the woman is right there telling me I can)
-No sex does not mean that I don't like sexual play- I do very much so. If I'm willing to let you spank me, 99% of the time that means I'm ok enough for you to see my tits, lol :)
-If you want my clothes off, you can do it yourself (meaning I'm fine being naked, you just have to say when, and often, do it yourself)
-I prefer my spanker and men in general to stay clothed
-At least one person will wear underwear to bed
(oh you also get to hear the story about why I hate penises :) lol)
My emotional limits
-NO degrading- re: no calling me a "bitch" or a "slut." No hair pulling. No spitting. No feet kissing, etc [I do really like exhibitionism and embarrassment- there is a difference]
-After a spanking, aftercare must be immediate (no corner time AFTER a spanking)
-corner time during a spanking can not be too long (see limitations) and you can't leave for an extended period of time- only for a couple seconds to get an implement. You must be in the room
-Just avoid the phrase "you do not deserve..."
-Do not call me a "bad girl" in a discipline setting. I am a good girl who behaved poorly, or a naughty girl
-understand that I have triggers, and that you might have to deal with them, and be kind and understanding while doing so
-ALWAYS respect my headspace
My limitations
-I can't kneel- my knees will pop out of joint. I don't do kneeling anyway, but on occasion it feels appropriate, but it is not possible
-I get dehydrated very easily (you have to remind me to drink water when playing) and get dizzy sometimes when in the corner. I have passed out more than once. Thus, I can't be in the corner for much longer than 5 (max 10) minutes.
-I have panic attacks that make it so I can't breathe. If I say I'm having one during a spanking- which can happen- you have to let me up to get my medicine
Safewords
-my safe word is "safeword"
Ok team, I think that covers it :) Please listen to the audio if you can- I think its pretty decent. And please, as always, don't judge what I say based on only the typing- I might answer your question in the audio. And also, these are my PERSONAL limits, and I don't think that everyone does or should have the same limits. :)
xoxo
Princess Kelley
HI! PRINCESS.
ReplyDeleteLIKE YOU POST PICTURES USING HAVAIANAS SANDALS IN THEIR FEET. THESE SANDALS ARE VERY GOOD FOR NUDE BUTT SPANK.
THESE SANDALS ARE GOING TO BE BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR FEET, TRY THE BLUE TURQUOISE OR ANY OTHER COLOR. I LOVE to LOVE to SEE YOU USING AND SPANK YOU WITH THEM.
KISS AND MANY BEAUTIFUL SLIPPERS IN YOUR BUTT.
BRAZILIAN MAN
PS.
MEET MY REQUEST PLEASE! PUT AN ANSWER TO MY COMMENT.
Hi Brazilian man,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment, however I must request that you refrain from using all caps and continuing to request my use of these certain sandals.
Any future comments that are of the same nature will be deleted as spam. Sorry :(
Hugs
Princess Kelley
I completely understand that being on the receiving end of the punishment you need to maintain control over the session. One thing you did not clarify; what if the spanker wants to perform oral sex on you after the spanking?
ReplyDeleteWhen you say you've only had sex 2.5 times, could you please clarify what that means?
ReplyDeleteVery cool that your know your limits and can explain them so clearly. It makes a life a lot easier. We know too that you are very focused on returning the favor... and being mindful and respectful of your spankers limits. Some spankees don't even ASK... which is sort of a red flag. That's not you at all though. You want a spanking to work for everyone... and that takes open communication... and that's what you're all about.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with NO ALL CAPS limit and the thing about HAVAIANAS SANDALS too... lol.
:)
~Todd and Suzy
americanspankingsociety.com
Forgive me, princess, did not mean to offend her in any moment, the uppercase I only used to enter more rápido.Quanto the use of sandals, I asked you to wear the next pictures because I think pretty much in feet girls, and are also very good for espankig light, I really like.
ReplyDeleteAgain, forgive me. You are very beautiful.
Brazilian Man
Hi Kelley,
ReplyDeleteAnother two lovely audio posts, it is nice to understand what your limits are.
It is good to have limits and you do not come over as picky or self centred. Some of them I share (cane and big wooden items, degrading name calling but to name a few).
I to am interested in more about how you came to have sex 2.5 times (as opposed to twice or three times) and would also like to hear about the story about your feelings towards penises.
since we are asking questions and stating limits. Let me ask on and I hope you don't take offence.
ReplyDeleteHave you ever thought of entering the world of spanking on a web site? And how do you chose your partners? Have you ever considered going to shadow lane in Vegas? I think you would have a blast Miami Bob
LOL the word that you have to type in the box to post was "IMPACT" miami bob
ReplyDeleteNothing turns a guy on like hearing "I don't like penises" from a girl...
ReplyDeleteI'm guessing the poster above me didnt bother listening to the audio before commenting.
ReplyDeleteI'd personally be quite surprised at any girl that says she actually likes the look of penises, because in fairness they are effective but not aesthetic.
Adrian
Excellent (audio) post Kelley; insightful, informative and honest.
ReplyDeleteWonderful audio post Kelley! Very informative :)I liked the part about needing to be comforted afterwards. Such a good girl.
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Jon
Hello Kelley:
ReplyDeleteI thought I would make a few scattered observations about your last few posts. I won't be around during Lent.
On Alchohol
-No Drunk Driving is a very good rule. I did jury duty on a case of drunk driving and drunk driving causing death.
-Ale is better than Lager. Not as fizzy. Craft Beers and Microbrewry Beer is always best. Yes, I am a beer snob.
-Tequila is not evil if you get the good stuff. A friend of mine brings up some very good tequila when he comes back from visiting family in Mexico City. It is very good and smooth but also $USD150 a bottle. So it better be good!
-Don't visit Santa Fe. The streets were laid out after about 6 bottles of very cheap tequila!
-You might like a Blueberry Tea one day. it is an ounce of Grand Marnier, and ounce of Amoretto and the rest is regular tea. It is great as an after dinner drink.
On Limits
-I think your limits are fine. I think that I would have a limit of "no belts". I would refuse to use a belt on someone because ofthe way it was used on me from age 10-12. Even if they asked nicely and said "please." Being comforted after a spanking does sound like a wonderful idea.
-I guess I better not point at you and, with a mischievous grin say "muy mala muchacha" then. Fair enough!
On Life
_I am glad to hear that things are going well for you academically. Congrats on the A.
You are certainly a good girl.
*Avuncular hug and forehead smooch, even if you have been naughty,
Richard
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